Question from Mincty:
I wanted pearl pink and purple for my wedding color, however my fiance don’t think I could pull these two colors off together. I choose the colors beacuse the pearl pink is my favorite color and the purple is his favorite color. The reception will be an underwater treasure theme. I went to wal-mart and got every pink and purple color swatch they had in the paint area and he wouldn’t even look at them.
Please help with convincing my finace being different can be pulled off.
Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:
Hi Mincty, and congratulations on your upcoming marriage. This is how you figure out colours for the wedding: you need to choose colours that are toning, harmonious, or complementary.
A tonal scheme (monochromatic) means you use a colour in different tones. There is one colour, but different tones of that colour (various shades of purple for example).
The harmonious colours are those that are close to each other on the colour wheel. For example, pink has purple on one side and red on the other side. Those are harmonious colours. Purple has pink on one side, and blue on the other side. These too are harmonious colours.
The complementary colours are those that are opposite to one another on the colour wheel. For example: purple and yellow; pink and yellowy greens.
Maybe your fiancee doesn’t like the choice because the colour strengths aren’t balanced. Pink and purple work very well together as long as they have the same "strength" of colour. You don’t want a soft pale pink with a dark bold purple. The tone of the colours should match. For example, soft pink and soft purple together go very well.
Some men have difficulty with colour choices, and they tend to stick to blues, blacks, etc. You may want to choose a third colour to go with pink and purple (like white) to break it up somewhat. Think about how pink, purple and white ribbons would look together. It would be lovely. If you are going traditional with a white wedding gown, and the groomsmen with white shirts, this could make the colour choice more palatable to your finance.
Or you could go with three colour tones with pink, purple, and a colour in between those two. I suggest you google images for colour wheels and look for ideas.
In the meantime, I would stop trying to "convince him", but instead listen to what his ideas are for wedding colours. He may have some very specific ideas about the wedding, and this is something you are doing together. It’s great to be excited and want to plan it all, but I can say from experience, that a wedding is about compromise. How the wedding planning goes will show you very quickly how things will go in your married life–can you talk about things or not? Can you compromise or not? Just how important is wedding colour to your relationship? Are you sure that he is really against these colours (which are a lovely choice), or is he just upset about something else, and it is coming out about the colours?
Keeping things in perspective, and keeping a sense of humour goes a long way in wedding planning, as in life. ENJOY! These are memories you are creating.
Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert
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