Question from Eloisa:
Would I be pushing it if I sent the guests who live out of state information about which airport to come in, Hotels prices and car rental prices in their envelope with the "Save the Date" cards? or should I just wait until I know if they are coming and if they ask for the information?
Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:
Hi Eloisa. Nice to hear from you again. I have seen other etiquette experts think that sending the information with the save the date cards as an acceptable option. I think sending your guests information with the save the date cards is nice, but it could be construed as pressuring them to attend. Instead, I would just add a quick note along the lines of "I’ve been collecting some information to help our out-of-town family who are coming to our anniversary. If you decide you can make our anniversary, feel free to let me know if you’d like me to share that information with you. We hope to see you there".
You don’t want to pressure them, but a casual offer of help would be generous and kind. Some people, especially when they are getting older, find that travelling to a strange city can be onerous. A casual offer of assistance can be the difference between them attending or not.
In the end, it is your choice whether you’d like to send the information now, or later. The true rule of etiquette is about making your guests comfortable. If you feel those you send the information to won’t feel overly pressured by receiving it, then you could send it with the save the date cards.
Good Luck,
Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert
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