How Do I Include A Deceased Parent in The Wedding? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Ryan:

Hi.  My mother died last year, and I want to include her in the wedding somehow. Is there a proper way to do this?

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Ryan, and congratulations on your upcoming wedding.  Many individuals want to put their deceased parent on the wedding invitation, but the wedding invitation is specifically for who hosts the wedding.

There are a number of ways to include your mother in the wedding, and the ceremony is the best place to do this.  You can mention her in the program by writing a short tribute.  You can light a memorial candle during the ceremony, and have the officiant read her tribute while it is being lit.

Another option would be to place a flower on the chair next to your father at the ceremony.  You can also acknowledge her at the reception and toast her, or you can come up with your own unique ideas based on her personality.

The point to remember is that this is a wedding, and you don’t want to take away from the joyfulness of the event, but you do want to acknowledge her because she was a big part of your life.  The right balance needs to be struck.  Your officiant might have further ideas in how to give tribute to your mother.

Congratulations on your wedding!

Angela Fiebelkorn, certified wedding planner