Question from Shirley:
Hello. We have been together for many years ,both married before . we would like to know how to inform our wedding guest that we do not want gifts when we invite them to our special day. How do we say it in a nice way on the invitations . Thank you in advance Shirley
Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:
Hi Shirley. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. Every etiquette rule states to never tell a guest "no gifts" on an invitation. In fact, there should be no mention of gifts at all on the invitation.
The proper way to get no gifts is to tell your family and bridal party that you want no gifts, and if those invited ASK, to pass on this information. That is the usual process.
But saying that, not everyone goes the "proper etiquette" way. I have seen the following ‘no gift’ messages over the years: "May your good wishes be your only gift to us." "Your gift is your presence." "Your presence is the best present." Although this is definitely improper etiquette, it does happen, and you may choose to do this.
I am aware of another method used by one couple. What they said when asked what they wanted for a gift, was to say that they really didn’t need anything, but when pushed they said, "you know, something fun to do that we wouldn’t normally do would be nice." They received all kinds of gift certificates and had great fun over the next year trying new restaurants, and trying new activities.
Whether you want gifts or not, it is proper to gratefully acknowledge each gift received. You may choose to let your wedding be an opportunity for you to update some old items that you have through the receipt of gifts.
Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert
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