Break the Old Tradition with a Modern Take on Bridal Veils

Embroidered Border VeilMost people have come to associate the word “bride” to a picture of a woman in a white gown, her face silhouetted by a translucent veil while making her way down the aisle. Wearing a bridal veil goes back as far as the ancient times, and it is steeped in symbolism and tradition.

The Greeks and Romans used it to conceal the bride’s face from her groom until the wedding ceremony. In Europe during the Middle Ages, the veil was believed to protect the bride against curses and evil spirits. Most other cultures have a superstition that it is bad luck for the bride to see herself in full attire until the time of the wedding, thus a veil is necessary to ward off misfortune.

These days however, the veil is no longer just an excuse to conform to tradition. It has become a fashion statement and an essential accessory that completes the overall look of the bride. It adds a touch of romance and formality to the occasion and lends more style and elegance to the wedding dress. It is usually worn over the bride’s face during the formal ceremony. However, in many modern weddings, the veil does not cover the whole face, rather just a portion of the head or even just attached to the back of the head.

Double Border of Satin Ribbon Pearls VeilWhen choosing the veil, it is necessary to consider the style of the wedding gown, the bride’s hairstyle, and the location of the ceremony and reception. Here are some of the most popular choices of modern brides when it comes to bridal veils.

  • Birdcage veil

This super chic veil was very famous during the sixties, and now it is making a huge comeback. It is made from tulle or French netting and is often embellished with crystals, feathers, or flowers. Its style is very short, often just covering half of the face. The actual comb of the veil can sit at the back of the head, or to the side for extra drama.

The veil itself can fall just up to the chin, lips, nose, or under the eyes. It can even cover only the forehead! This type of veil will look gorgeous with your hair held up in a half-bun, but it also works well with short hair. It is sure to lend a classy and sophisticated beat to just about any kind of wedding look.

  • Blusher veil

The blusher is not the actual veil itself but just the shorter layer of the veil that falls over the bride’s face. You can wear it during the wedding procession but it is usually lifted up from the face during or after the ceremony.

  • Flyaway veil

Unique Wedding VeilThis multi-layered veil falls just up to the shoulders to give an unobstructed view of the back of your gown. It is great when you want to show off the details behind your dress. It goes best with an ankle-length gown at a less formal wedding.

  • Fountain veil

This veil sits at the crown of the head and cascades around your face. It is usually shoulder or elbow length and complements a semi-formal gown.

Whatever kind of wedding veils you decide to have on your wedding, it will surely add more style and personality to your bridal look, as long as you choose wisely. So what is the best part about wearing a veil? Of course, it is the time when it will be lovingly flipped back by your groom, to share your first kiss as husband and wife.

Beach Wedding Accessories for the Exotic Couple

Black or White Just Married Sandals

Black or White Just Married Sandals

If you would take a survey on the most popular wedding themes, beach wedding would probably top the list. This is because many couples love the vast expanse of beautiful ocean that can serve as the backdrop, the romantic ambiance of the beach scene, and the fact that beach weddings are beautiful and inexpensive at the same time.

Since there are now many couples who get married on beach wedding settings, some exotic couples want to take it a step higher in order to have a unique kind of matrimonial ceremony at the beach. One way to achieve this is to wear one-of-a-kind beach wedding accessories that would complete their look for their big day. Here are some fantastic ideas on wedding accessories that any couple would surely love.

Lei or Flower Garland

A tropical flower garland is one of the first things that will come into your mind upon the mention of the words, beach wedding accessories. Whether you are getting married in a beach in Hawaii or in any other part of the world, a lei of beautiful tropical flowers around the necks of the bride and groom can surely be a memorable embellishment for the event.

Seashell Jewelry

It is very common to find seashells in any beach, which is why this element is always present in many beach weddings. Incorporate seashells into your wedding attire by donning accessories made from terrific beach finds. You and your spouse-to-be can wear seashell necklace, seashell bracelet, or a seashell anklet. Since there are many colors and styles to choose from, it is a good bet that you would end up with a unique looking accessory that would certainly wow your guests.

Beaded Accessories

Aside from seashells, beads are also a staple when it comes to beach or summer accessories. Beaded necklaces, beaded bracelets, and beaded earrings can add a touch of creativity and exotic appeal to your and your partner’s beach wedding attire.

Flower Headdress

For the bride, instead of wearing the traditional veil, you can choose to have a flower headdress made of tropical flowers such as sunflower or hibiscus. Just remember that if you are going to wear the headdress, you should skip the flower garland (or the other way around, depending on your preference) because wearing both would be overdoing it.

Barefoot Bridal Sandals

Barefoot bridal sandals are becoming a hot fashion statement for brides who want to walk down the aisle with bare feet. Barefoot bridal sandals can be made of beads, rhinestones, or leather straps that accents the top of the feet without a covering for the sole.

Shell tiara or headband

In lieu of the flower headdress, a bride can also wear a seashell tiara or headband as a hair accessory. This is suitable for simple hairstyles like a classic bun, ponytail, or hair let hanging down on the shoulders.

Beach weddings have that unique romantic feel and creative look that many exotic couples love. Complete the special occasion by wearing one-of-a-kind beach wedding accessories that you can use even after the wedding day.

Most Popular Wedding Shoe Designers in 2009

dreamstime_10452648Most women love to shop for shoes. Brides are not an exception. In fact, many women believe that a wedding is one of the most important events that require shopping for a pair of beautiful and exquisite shoes. Even though the shoes will hardly be seen due to the length of the bridal gown, many brides opt to buy elegant designer shoes that would complete their look for that special day.

If you are looking for a pair of designer shoes to wear on your wedding event, it helps to know who the top wedding shoe designers for this year are. These bridal designer shoes are the top in the industry and many brides would be more than excited to walk down the aisle in these fantastic creations. Here are the top wedding shoe designers for the year 2009 in no particular order.

1. Vera Wang

Vera Wang’s bridal shoes are some of the most sought after wedding shoes not only in this country but in other parts of the world as well. Vera Wang shoes are described to be glamorous and ultra-feminine. The trademark shoes from this line are the t-strapped shoes with leather uppers and 3.25” heels adorned with glimmering glitters.

2. Kate Spade

Shoes by Kate Spade are known for their charm, elegance and traditional style. One of the most popular shoes from this designer is the Gali shoes, which are open toe white silk satin sling-back wedding shoes. This pair comes with a superb decorative bow with a rhinestone-studded brooch that certainly adds visual appeal to the already gorgeous shoes.

3. Delman

Delman shoes are all about beauty, style and unique quality. Selma shoes, one of the well-known pairs from this designer, comes with a delicate lattice design, and metallic silver leather accents. It is a nice break away from the norm in wedding shoes and is the perfect pair for a bride that is looking from something that is out of the ordinary and yet is beautiful and elegant.

3. Stuart Weitzman

Decopauge by Stuart Weitzman is another popular pair of wedding shoes that many brides want to get their hands on. This pair is made in Spain and it features 3.5” heels, two-piece uppers, Swarovski adornments and one large stone. This is truly the ultimate pair to complete your elegant ensemble.

4. Manolo Blahnik

One thing distinct about shoes from Blahnik is that they are not the typical wedding shoes. Manolo Blahnik shoes are more than simply stunning; their fabulous t-straps sandals are made of silver chainmail, metallic leather, and many rhinestones. They are so gorgeous you can wear them even after the wedding is over.

6. Benjamin Adams

Another household name in wedding shoes industry is Benjamin Adams, whose shoes are mainly described as stylish and comfortable. His shoes are available in a wide variety of unique designs that sets his shoes apart from the rest. Dyeable classic ivory satin and simple white satin are just some of the many colors available.

With so many brands to choose from, you can easily find one that fits your style. However, keep in mind that the designer’s name is just one among the many factors to consider when buying bridal shoes. More important than the name it carries are comfort and fit, to ensure that you find the perfect pair for you to use on big day.

Do I Use My Married Name On My Second Wedding Invitations? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Shirley:

I am divorced and legally use my married name. I am getting married again so, will I use my married name on the wedding invitation?

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Shirley, and congratulations on your upcoming wedding.  Yes, you would use your legal name on the wedding invitation.  This video on how to word wedding invitations will help you with the wording of your wedding invitations. 

As an ‘encore bride’ —someone who has been married before—there are etiquette rules for you that do not apply to a first-time bride.  For example, although whomever is invited to your bridal shower must be invited to the wedding, you would NOT invite people who attended your first bridal shower to your second bridal shower.  They have already given you a wedding shower gift.  You can, of course, still invite them to your wedding.

Although, at an encore wedding, you can have a wedding dress, it is usually more subdued and less flamboyant than at a first-time wedding.  Most encore wedding dresses tend to be cocktail length dresses, or a classy couture suit that can be worn again.  Although blusher veils (over the face) are not used at an encore wedding, a short veil is acceptable.  An encore bride usually wears a hat, hair ornaments or fresh flowers in their hair instead of a veil. 

The size of the bridal party is usually smaller at an encore wedding.  In addition, when it comes to the receiving line, the parents are not usually included (unless they are paying for the wedding) and any children the couple may have are included in the receiving line. 

Just because you are having an encore wedding, it does not mean you cannot have an elegant, and sophisticated affair.  It just is smaller in scale than a first wedding. 

Enjoy!  and if you have further questions, feel free to email again, or comment below. 

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert

What Length of Bridesmaid Dress is In Style? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Andrea:

What’s more in style these days for bridesmaid dresses, short or long?  Our wedding will be in July 2010.  Thanks.

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Andrea, and congratulations on your upcoming wedding.  It is more common ‘these days’ for bridesmaids to wear T-length (short) dresses.  Why?  more and more weddings are informal or contemporary, and long dresses are for more formal weddings. 

If you are having a sophisticated, formal, elegant wedding, long dresses are much more suitable than short ones.  If you are having an informal outdoor wedding, short dresses are more suitable.  It really depends upon your wedding theme

So, it depends, really on the vision for your wedding.  The type of wedding you choose is really a reflection of your personality as a couple.  Are you an upscale kind of couple?  Then your wedding choices should reflect that.  If you are a casual couple, your wedding choices should reflect that.  The length of dresses you choose for your bridesmaids will also be a reflection of your style as a couple.

Take a look through the bridal magazines to see the major trends in dresses.  It will give you an idea of what is "in" and what is not.  Good luck, and if you have any further questions, feel free to ask.

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert

What Is Appropriate Dress For An Upscale Reception? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Susan:

Hello and thank you -  This is a good friend and co workers wedding.  It is at 5:00pm with a sit down dinner reception at another location which is an exclusive plantation clubhouse.  Would black slacks and a very nice silk top be appropriate for this?  I am a 43 yr old single mom in South Carolina, Beaufort. Thank you.

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Susan.  Yes, your attire sounds appropriate.  Ensure you have a nice pair of heels (no flats) to keep the look upscale.  Nice bridal accessories like jewellery or a scarf will complete the look.  Enjoy!

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert

How To Find A Bridesmaids Dress With Flowers At The Hem – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Amy:

Can you help me find white bridesmaid dresses with multi colored flowers at bottom?

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Amy.  I have never seen a bridesmaids dress like you are describing.  That is not to say it doesn’t exist.  There are thousands of dress manufacturers all over the world, and depending where in the world you live, you will have access to different dress lines and designers than someone in another part of the world. 

Finding a nice white bridesmaid dress is easy.  In fact, some brides who are having an informal wedding often choose a nice bridesmaids dress for their wedding dress.  Flower appliques are numerous—check your local sewing shops.  Having them applied to an existing dress is a nice option if you cannot find a ready-made dress to your liking.  Just "google" flower appliques for a wide variety that you can choose from.

If you have any other questions, feel free to email again.

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert

 

What Kind Of Wedding Dress Should I Buy? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Annie:

Hi there, I’m getting married next year and I have no idea what kind of dress would look good on me.  I’m only 5′ tall and I’m really worried that I will look funny in a real, long wedding gown. I’m also an XS and for a petite person, my chest is really big.  I just don’t want to look like I’m drowning in my dress.

Thank you for your help! :)

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Annie, a long gown will actually elongate your body and make you look taller—especially an A-line style or something that doesn’t visually "cut you off" at the waist.  What you need to do is pick a dress that balances your upper and lower torso so they look balanced.  If you are top heavy, choose a more flared skirt to balance the top.  A fitted waist will give your body definition and shape. 

Since you are short, you won’t want the big, flared princess style dress, but something with a more fitted shape, and a nicely draped skirt with some flow.

If you are unsure of being able to pick out the right dress, ask a friend or relative whose fashion sense you admire to help you pick out your gown.  The real trick is to have a balanced look to your body—upper and lower halves.  Many styles will do this, so try on lots of dresses.  If you sign up for my free wedding newsletter, you will receive the .pdf How To Dress Your Body Type which you might find helpful.

Good luck, and if you have further questions, please feel free to ask.

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert

 

What Is An Appropriate Dress For A Renewal Of Vows? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Barbara:

My husband and I will be renewing our 30th Wedding vows on the Carnival Valor cruise 12/06/2009, by the cruise Captain and I was wondering if you feel this dress would be an appropriate dress.

Would you suggest something more simple or another color? I was wondering if it is ok to wear white again? any advice would be appreciated.

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Barbara, the dress is beautiful, and is entirely appropriate for a cruise wedding renewal of vows.  A renewal of vows can be either extravagant or simple depending upon the couple.  Many couples never had much of a "real wedding" when they first got married, so like to have a more extravagant renewal of vows.  

What you are planning sounds very appropriate.   A renewal or second wedding should be more subdued than a first wedding from an etiquette point of view.  A cruise renewal of vows is very popular choice.  Yes, it is perfectly fine to wear white again, but know that it is a more modern choice.  The traditional choice is to go with ivory, pale yellow or other soft colour.  The choice is yours. 

I think you choice is perfect.  Enjoy! and congratulations!

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert

 

Is It OK To Let The Bridesmaid’s Choose Their Own Styles? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Diletta:

Hi Angela.  I chose for my wedding a color theme: red and cream.  I told my bridesmaids that as long as their dress will be red and long I am happy.  Yes, I am not going to pick a style or material, I want them to feel comfortable with the outfit.  One of them already bought hers…and the wedding won’t be until next June (2010)!  Do you think I took the right decision?  Everybody told me yes, but I want the expert opinion!!! :)   Thank you,

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Diletta, and congratulations on your upcoming wedding.  The only concern I have is that not all reds are the same.  Some reds are quite bright, and some have a grey undertone, and not every person sees the same color or shade of color.  People are different, and how we see colour differs.  So, my question would be:  Do you want different shades of red for your bridesmaids?  If so, then yes, you have gone about it the right way.  If you want everyone to be the exact same colour, then you need to define the exact colour. 

Having everyone choose their own red colour and their own style is very "European"—the American style being more rigid in having everyone in the exact same dress. But you wanted my opinion.  Yes, I think you made the right decision in allowing everyone their individuality.

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert

 

What Colours Go With A Red Wedding Dress? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Brit:

My wedding gown is red.  What colors should I use for Maid of honor and Bridesmaids?

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Brit, and congratulations on your upcoming wedding.  You have a number of choices for your MOH and bridesmaids.  You can go with lighter shades of red, or into the pinks.  Any of the yellow or green family of colours would work well with red.  Brown and black go well with red also—-although black is a pretty strong colour for a wedding, but it doesn’t seem you are afraid of colour!!  So, those are the usual colours that go with red, although purple works well with red it is not a combination that is often seen. 

Those are the basic choices.  Good luck and if you have further questions, feel free to ask.

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert

What Are Great Gifts For The Bridal Party? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Lynette:

I am in my 40′s and this is second wedding for me and first for the groom.  Our wedding party ages range from 35 – 50 years old, and they have everything.  Any suggestions on unique gift ideas and what is the appropriate amount to spend?

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Lynette, and congratulations on your upcoming wedding.  The classic gift for the bridal party is jewellery.  The jewellery is usually worn on the wedding day to give a consistent look to the bridal party.  The ladies usually get necklaces, and the fellows often get tie pins or tie clips, or watches

The bridal party spends a lot of money on their attire, and paying for the costs involved in the bridal shower and stag party.  So the gifts for the bridal party should roughly equal what they spend.  Of course, a gift is given based on what the giver can give, so this could vary. 

These links should give you some great ideas.

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert

On-line Canadian Supplier of Wedding Jewellery and Gifts – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Denis:

Hi Angela, I need your help.  I would like to give my groomsman and dad and father in law, pocket watches but can’t seem to find any canadian company (online).  I found some on The Knot but they do not deliver in Canada.  Can you please let me know if you know of any website where I could find some? Thank you.

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Denis, and congratulations on your upcoming wedding.  You can find a lot of gifts for groomsmen and family on this site.  There is not a lot available on-line, shipping from Canada.  The link I’ve given you gives you a large selection of jewellery gifts, shipped from Canada.

If you have any other questions, please feel free to email again.

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert

What Kind Of Wedding Dress Suits Me? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Madiha:

Hi.  I want to wear some skirt or frock on my marriage but I don’t know which kind of dress suits me.  Please help me.  Waiting for an answer.

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Madiha.  I can’t tell you what kind of wedding dress suits you without knowing what you look like.  The real key is choosing something that  gives your upper and lower body a balanced look.  If you sign up for the free SmartBrideTM Newsletter, you will receive a free .pdf called The Secret of Dressing Your Body Type.  Another way to figure it out, is to take a family member or friend with you to a wedding dress shop and try some dresses on.  Get their opinion, and the shop keepers will help you also.

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert

What Should The Flower Girl Wear? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Mary:

Hello, we are having an evening wedding at a restaurant. We don’t have a bridal party but my niece really wanted to be a flower girl. She is 8 years old. My dress is a Nicole Miller Sheath Ivory dress. Should the flower girl be wearing something similar? I can only find fluffy dresses. Thanks

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Mary.  The flower girl does not need to match you.  In fact, if she matched you too much, it would take away from the statement you make with what you are wearing.  If the dresses are too fluffy for your taste and the overall look of your wedding, consider non-flower girl dresses, and choose just a nice white (or ivory) dress from a nice children’s clothing store. 

Good luck, and if you have further question, feel free to email again.

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert

 

What Wedding Gown Style Suits My Body Type? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Adebowale:

Hi Angela.  I am a lady who is about 5 feet 7 inches.  I have broad shoulders and little or no hips.  What type of gown do you think will make me look quite shapely on my wedding?  Thank you for your anticipated help.  I really look forward to hearing from you.

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding.  You have a cone shape or inverted triangle shape.  A cone shaped woman has a broader top and a narrower bottom. Broad shoulders, a medium bust, an average waist, narrow hips, and shapely long legs are all attributes of the cone shaped figure. When choosing a wedding gown, you want to aim for balancing out your top and bottom halves.

Choose a full skirt to balance the width of your shoulder. Your neckline should elongate you, like a deep V-neck. You don’t want a neckline that makes your shoulders look broader, and you must stay away from off the shoulder style bodices. The bodice style and neckline should both work to elongate your upper torso, with a vertical style. A ball gown style, or an A-line silhouette would both look great on your figure.

You might consider signing up for The Secret of Dressing Your Body Type for more details. 

Good luck, and if you have any questions, feel free to email again.

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert

What Colour Would Be Nice For A Bridemaid Dress? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Tamara:

Dear Angela, My wedding is coming up on July 4th 2009, and I’m having problems getting a colour scheme.  I really like the idea of having mostly white decorations, with possibly some bright centerpieces, (red,pink and peach).  What colour would you suggest for bridesmaids dresses?

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Tamara and congratulations on your upcoming wedding.  The .pdf I wrote called Wedding Colour Choices Made Easy might help you decide how to incorporate colours into your decor.  If you want to stay mostly white, I would recommend you use white with different textures.  That is how to create visual interest in a monochromatic look. 

Any one of your colours would work really well with white.  In fact, you could use both red and pink (next to each other on the colour wheel) in your decor, as they work really well together.  If you kept the colour tones the same (all bright or soft) you could even use peach with red and pink.  I would suggest red and pink, with touches of peach thrown in here and there in the flowers. 

There are some great bridemaid dresses here, including a wonderful After Six  bridesmaid dress here that comes in over 50 colours.  Any one of the colours you suggest would work nicely for a bridemaid dress, but I would see what colouring your bridemaids have to find a colour that suits their skin tone.. 

Remember that you can also accent your decor with wedding favours that can either fit into your "splashes of colour" or you can find neutral ones that will keep the soothing tone of your overall colour scheme.

If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask.  

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert 

Fall Wedding Ideas

Giving your reception a fall theme is one way to capture the essence of the season without having to incorporate Autumn into every aspect of your day. Fall wedding favor ideas allow you to inject the theme of fall into your reception, but not in a way that dominates. Often a few carefully chosen Fall wedding favor ideas, mixed with the natural beauty of the season are enough to give your event a flavor that is hard to forget and very peaceful and enjoyable.

For special guests, a fall leaves handkerchief sets a mood and is a functional gift that the recipient will be wowed by and treasure. Fall leaf candles presented on a brown or burgundy cloth napkin or enclosed in an orange, yellow or red box will be sure to impress virtually everyone in attendance. Maple Candy tucked 6055.jpginside a miniature pail or "Thank You For Sharing Our Joy" miniature flower pot is one way to wow both children and adults. Another idea is to provide Autumn themed appetizers for your guests with their favors as they wait for the reception to begin.

With fall, your options are endless. By using creative Fall wedding favor ideas, you can make sure that your theme is as much of a hit as your special day. Like the season, Fall weddings symbolize a lot and mean something positive to virtually everyone.

What Style Of Wedding Dress Would Look Good On My Body Type? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Kim:

Aloha, my name is Kim and I wanted to know what type of wedding dress would look good on me.  I’m not big but not small either.  I have a little meat on my
body, but I want to look good but don’t know what type of dress to get.  Thank you.

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Kim and congratulations on your upcoming wedding.  When choosing your wedding gown, it is important to identify your body type.  I have written a free .pdf called The Secret of Dressing Your Body Type which talks about how to choose the right gown for your body type. 

The important thing to know when choosing your wedding gown is that when you wear the dress, your upper and lower torso must look balanced.  If either top or bottom half look out of proportion, you need to change the style of that part of the dress.  This article will explain dressing your body type in more detail.

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert

 

What Attire Should We Have For A Renewal of Vows? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Eloisa:

I am looking for a cocktail dress for myself and my husband is planning on wearing a suit although he feels strange being a little more dressed up then the guests and I try to tell him that we should a little bit more dressed up because we are hosting and it is our 25th anniversary.  We should be fine dressed up as I mention above even though we are having this event during the day and having a picnic style buffet for lunch.  Is our attire is good since we are renewing our vows? 

Also for my out of state guests, should I give them the info about hotels prices and rental car prices when I send the save-the-date cards or should I wait until they ask? Because they may need the info in case they want to stay in a hotel that is in the same city on where we are having the event? Thank you.

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Eloisa.  Your attire sounds perfect.  There are some great cocktail dresses (sometimes called T dresses) which you can find at this link. 

As for your out of town guests, I would wait until they ask for additional information.  Informing them that you have the information is enough at this stage of the process.  This post about save-the-date cards gives a more complete answer. 

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert

Where Can I Find A Butterfly Wedding Dress? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Heather:

I was wondering if anyone has an idea of where I could find a "butterfly" wedding dress. I would like to have a ball gown type dress with train and some sort of delicate subtle butterfly accents. Not too much color, if any.  I have only been able to find dresses that are either very very colorful, or really weird. I found one that was cute, but not what I was hoping for.  I would like to find my dream dress and sew some butterfly type jewels or accents on it myself if I had to, but my fiance wants me to have everything as perfect as I can and doesn’t think I should settle for anything less (I wouldn’t mind doing that at all).  Anyway, if anyone has any insight, I would greatly appreciate it :-)

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Heather.  I have not seen a butterfly wedding gown anywhere.  I suggest you get some pictures of what you want, and approach a seamstress to make it for you.  You can have it exactly as you want it.  Depending upon how complicated it will be, it might not be any more expensive than purchasing a dress and adding the butterfly details yourself.  Get more than one quote from seamstresses on what they would charge to make it for you.

If you have further questions, feel free to email me again.

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert

 

 

How Do I Know A Cheap Wedding Gown Is Not Cheaply Made? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Jocelyn:

Hi Angela I want to know if you have heard of lily wedding?  It is a online site that I found on google it has cheap wedding dresses.  I want to order from there but I am worried it will be something cheaply made or nothing at all please help.

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Jocelyn, and congratulations on your upcoming wedding.  I have not heard of lily wedding, but that doesn’t mean anything, as there are thousands of websites.  If you are unsure of a website, you can check the contact us, and about us information, and see what you can find out about the company.  You can phone them to speak to someone so you can get a feel for them.  What country are they from?  Will you be paying custom fees or import duty?  This will increase the cost of the dress.

There are many websites that sell wedding dresses, and most websites purchase from the same wholesaler suppliers.  I suggest you look around at other wedding shops to see if you can see the same wedding dress manufacturer and style.  If you can, you are probably buying the real thing.  Remember, you get what you pay for. 

If you have any further questions, feel free to email again.

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert

How Do I Choose A Wedding Dress That Suits Me? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Mariam:

Dear Angela,  I need your advice, I am 161cm high, pear shaped figure, but my arms (sholder to elbow) are full, which type of wedding dress suits me?  Thank you. 

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Mariam.  Check out this article on how to dress for your body type to get some ideas on what style gown you should be looking for. 

A pear shape figured woman is small and slender through the neck, shoulders and bust, has a shapely waist, and is fuller in the lower hips and thighs. You should look for a wedding gown that has a full skirt that de-emphasizes your hips, and a semi-fitted or tailored bodice that shows off your small top-half. The neckline can be wider to help broaden your shoulders and bring balance to the full skirt. A basque waist, strapless ball gown, or an empire waist dress style are the best bet for a spoon shaped figure. You definitely don’t want a mermaid or trumpet style dress.  

A traditional A-line style dress works with ALL body types.  If you don’t want your arms bare, you can consider a lace "jacket" that comes with many strapless wedding dresses.  Some wedding dresses come with shawls or wraps, but then you would be adjusting it all evening if you couldn’t find a way to pin it in a way you like. 

My recommendation is a wedding dress with a basque waist , or an empire waist, and a lovely full skirt.  The bodice should be form fitting, but comfortable, with cap sleeves.  I would also try some A-line wedding dresses on to see whether you prefer that look.  Whether you choose cap sleeves, a bridal jacket, or a wrap, think about your comfort on the most important day of your life. 

If you have any other questions, please feel free to email again.

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert

What Colours Go With A Pale Yellow Wedding Dress? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Brenda:

I am wearing a pale yellow dress, what color flowers should I use? 

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Here is an article on how to choose your wedding colours.  For articles that go into detail of each wedding colour scheme, try this article.  When it comes to choosing a colour to go with pale yellow, ensure you choose the same tone of colour—for example a pale mauve which is complementary to yellow.  If you want a harmonious colour, choose yellowy greens, or yellowy oranges.  You could also go with a variety of yellow flowers in different shades, with the greenery that comes with them.  That too would be very beautiful. 

Have you considered the different types of flower bouquets?  The type of bouquet you use should reflect you height and size, as well as how eleborate or simple your wedding gown is.  The above link explains this in more detail.

If you have any further questions, feel free to respond in the box below and I will reply to your questions.  Enjoy, and congratulations!

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert

What Colour Goes With Sky Blue For My Wedding? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Chelsea:

My fiancee and I haven’t exactly pinned down when we want the wedding yet, we’ve just worked out that we’d like a spring wedding outside in the ‘backyard’ of our farm.  After a semi long debate about colors we came up with one and I would really like 2 just so that its not over bearing.  Can I get some advice on what decent colors go with Sky Blue? He’s pretty well against any green and I still can’t figure out anything.

My other issue is towards my girls dresses. I have one plus sized (and fairly top heavy) brides maid, one very slender (and not so well endowed) brides maid and one very dark skinned maid of honour.  How can I coordinate all there different shapes and sizes with a single dress style? I don’t like each girl with there own style or what not of dress with my colors. I’m a little wierd like that I suppose… Help?

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Chelsea, and congratulations on your upcoming wedding.  Sky blue is a beautiful colour and a nice choice.   You can go ‘tonal‘ in your colour scheme with various shades of sky blue.  You can choose "harmonious colours" like dark blue and turquoise in the same colour tones.  You can pick a "complementary colour" like orange.  You can also put neutrals with sky blue, like white, cream, ivory, or beige.  Have you considered silver?  Silver and blue is a classic combination.  The important thing is to have the same colour strength or tone.  If you have a soft sky blue, your  accent colours should be soft also.  If you have a bold sky blue, the accent colour should be the same tone or boldness.   This article on choosing your wedding colours will be helpful.

When choosing what colours to put together, I often recommend looking at the wedding favours and the wedding decorations and wedding supplies that are available.  Sometimes you will find something you really love in colours that will inspire your colour scheme, and the good thing will be that you will have your wedding favours or decorations in which to bring those colours more fully into your wedding decor. 

Regarding your bridesmaid dress sizes, you have a lot of choices.   Most bridesmaid dresses that you order online come in everything from size 4 to size 28W.   This article on how to choose the right style for your body type will help you define the best choice.   The one style that suits every body type is a classic A-line dress. 

If you have any other questions, feel free to comment in the box below and I will respond.  Good luck and enjoy the process.

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert

 

Where Can I Get A Pattern For A Wedding Coat with Train? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Lorraine:

Hi.  I want to know if you can tell me where to get a pattern for a long coat with a train attached for my daughter she is getting married next winter and I am making her coat.  She is having an outdoor wedding, and I can’t find a pattern anywhere.  I hope you can help me.

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Lorraine.  I have never seen a pattern for a long wedding coat with a train attached.  I suggest you find a pattern for a long coat, and another for a train, and create your own original design.

If you visit your local fabric store, you will find a number of options in the pattern books available.  Also, Simplicity, McCall’s and the other usual pattern companies are on-line and you can search their pattern collections. 

If you have a picture of what you want created, Any Wedding Dress advertises that they can create any wedding dress from a picture.  I’m sure they can create a coat with a train if you had a picture of what you want.

Good luck, and if you have further questions, please feel free to comment in the box below.

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert.

 

How Do I Create A Fairytale Theme? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Fenelly:

Hi. I’m from one of Asian country’s called Malaysia. I’m very confuse to arrange my wedding, were all question pop out from my mind, such as what should I do
for this fairy tale wedding, coz it will be done at basketball hall.  I choose my theme olour is silver blue during my reception.  I want to decorate the hall where
people can really feel the fairy tale theme. I will not have any wedding planner.  It will be my and my family.  Do u have any ideas for fairy tale wedding invitation card? maybe some photo for my flower girl, maid of honour, bride?  I as well need suggestion for what kind of flower and what colour suits with my theme colour.  Thanks you.

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding.  Having your wedding in a basketball hall and wanting to create a fairytale theme will take some work.  The goal will be to use low lighting, and to have focal points for the guests to focus on. 

The first thing to address is the lighting.  You want the lights to be low and things to sparkle.  With low lighting, you can use light garlands entwined with sinamay mesh or tulle fabric.  The use of lots of candles will also create sparkle—you might consider groupings of candles for your table centrepieces.  The thing to balance with lighting is to have enough light to have your guests comfortable, and enough dimness to make the walls disappear.  By keeping everything away from the walls, you can achieve this.  Depending upon what lighting is available in the room, you might choose to purchase some inexpensive "up lights" from a lighting store.  These can highlight your focal points, and create more light in the room.  Focal points can be arches, large flower arrangements, or an ice sculpture.

Silver and blue are great colours, and you can find many ways to incorporate it into your colour scheme.  The silver will help create more sparkle in the room also.  There are some great wedding invitation that depict a fairytale theme, or you can choose invitations that emphasis your blue and silver theme. 

If you want dress ideas for your flower girl, bridesmaids, etc., try this link for a variety of choices.  I suggest checking with your florist to see what flowers will be in season when you are having your wedding, and what colours those flowers come in.  I suggest different blues and white for your wedding flowers, although you may want another accent colour.  To help you decide what colours will accent your scheme, I suggest you check out this excellent wedding colour article. 

If you have any other questions, feel free to email again.

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert

 

Wedding Colours – How Do You Put A Look Together From A Bridal Bouquet? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Bailey:

I have fallen in love with the bouquet that was on the front of real weddings a couple of months back.  I know its probably not the best idea to base the wedding around that bouquet, but I love it!!  It was purples, blues, oranges and maybe some blue.  I really love the pomegranate colour for my bridesmaids and I want to have a plain strapless dress with a cathedral veil and a pomegranate sash.  Do these colours work together?  What could I use as an accent colour for the bridesmaids?  What are some centre piece ideas?  and with this colour, what time of year should I have the wedding??  Thanks a bunch!!

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Bailey, and congratulations on your upcoming wedding.  Let’s start with your colour choices.  Red-orange (pomegranate) and blue-green are complimentary colours (opposite each other on the colour wheel).  Hence, they go well together.  Blues and Purple are harmonious colours (next to each other on the colour wheel) and look wonderful together.  I would suggest punches of  pomegranate coloured flowers with your blues and purples in your bouquet.  This combination of blue, purple and pomegranate could then move into your total colour scheme for the wedding.  Your bridesmaids could have accent colours of blue and purple with the pomogranate.  I would suggest using both those colours (blue and purple) as opposed to only one of the colours, as it will have a more put together look, based on your bouquet.  Wedding table centrepieces would benefit from all three colours also. 

I saw that bouquet you mentioned, and it is very beautiful, so I am not surprised at your desire to have it for your wedding.  I would suggest you visit your florist with the picture of the bouquet, and find out what flowers they can use that match those colour tones.  You might find alternative flowers that are just as beautiful as those flowers, at a less costly price.  Then you need to ask the florist when those flowers you choose are in-season.  In-season flowers are cheaper than bringing in out-of-season flowers, so depending upon your flower choices and your budget, that should decide the seaons for you.  The colours you are interested in are perfect for any season.

A plain strapless wedding dress with a cathedral veil and pomegranate sash sounds beautiful.  When you are going for simple elegance in your wedding dress, I would suggest dressing it up with a pearl necklace, and possibly a tiara to contribute to an overall look of elegance.  If a wedding dress is more elaborate, then the jewellery needs to be more simple. 

There are many ways to go when coming up with centrepiece ideas—-almost all of them depend upon your budget.  Flowers are an obvious choice, and can be in a single vase, floating in water with candles or clustered in a multitude of vases destined for each guest.  If you want to move away from the obvious, I saw a gorgeous centrepiece made with dead branches, painted white, and strung with faux crystals and ribbons in the wedding colours.  There are so many choices, and they are limited only by your imagination.  Have you looked at all the choices you have for wedding decorations?   

Depending upon the wedding favours that you choose, that too can make a statement in your decor without the need to purchase other decorations.  For example, the bride and groom wine bottle stoppers are a whimsical touch, and having your wine grouped in the centre of the table with these bottle stoppers would make a great centrepiece.  The bottle stoppers can then be given away to the guests through a simple "game" like which couple at the table have been married the longest.  Looking through the wedding favours will give you more ideas of what you can do to decorate your tables.

If you have any other questions, feel free to email again.

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert

What Type of Wedding Jewellery Should I Wear? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Preema:

My gown is of ivory colour.  I would like to know what type of jewellery shouid I wear.  My face is small and ovel shape.  What type of hair style will suit me.  I have long hair too.  Thank you.

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Preema, and congratulations on your upcoming marriage.  The most classic jewellery for a wedding is pearls, followed by silver.  The more modern use of crystal allows for variety in your wedding jewellery, and crystals comes in many different colours, so you can carry a theme colour into your jewellery for a modern look.

There are many choices that you have, depending upon the bodice of your dress.  If your wedding gown bodice is detailed, I would suggest a simple pearl strand.  If your gown is of a more simple style, you can go with a more detailed and full necklace.  You want the length of the necklace to sit comfortably between your neck and the top of the wedding gown.   Earrings and a tiara or bridal headpiece can accent your look, and give the illusion of more height.  If you have a full neck height wedding dress, then I would suggest earrings and a tiara. 

You say you have long hair.  This lets you play with many different styles.  I suggest you try different "up-do’s" to see what you like the best.  Take pictures of yourself with these hairstyles to see what they look like.  Although it is great to have a spectacular hair style, when you look back at your pictures, you want to see what you looked like in those years, so a style that is close to your regular look is most often recommended.  I suggest you ask a friend who is good with hair to come over one day and help you experiment with different looks.  Or, if you have a favourite hairdresser, you can visit him/her and see what they will recommend. 

It is always good to try a hairstyle out before the wedding to see if it is what you truly want.  If you are having a headpiece and veil, you might find that the hairstyle is really not that important because it is mostly covered up.  I suggest you try different hairstyles with your jewellery, headpiece and veil, because it will be a whole look.

If you have any other questions, please feel free to email again.

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert

 

Is It Safe To Purchase A Wedding Dress Online? – Ask The Expert Answer

Question from Angela:

My question is:  Do you think it is a good Idea to purchase your wedding dress online? I have a picture of a Allure wedding dress and I have also seen it at a local wedding store, I tried it on and I know my size. There is a big price difference in the store the dress is $2300 and the same dress by the same designer is $1200.  What advice can you give me>  I am thinking of purchasing this gown online.  Thanks.

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Angela and congratulations on your upcoming wedding.  Thousands of wedding dresses are purchased online every day saving many brides a great deal of money.  Although we hear stories about the occasional ecommerce store being crooked, we never hear about the thousands of legitimate businesses that do well day after day.  The reason they can offer dresses at such a discount is because they don’t have to pay rent and utilities for a store, pay staff or the many other expenses that come with owning a store.  Just think what the cost of the dresses in the store are! 

If you are worried about the ecommerce store and it’s credentials, check the ‘about us’ page to see who they are.  Is their physical address listed on the site?  Is there a phone number?  Call them and ask some questions about the dress before you order to get a sense of what their service is like.  Go to Google, and type in a question about the store’s service to see if there are any complaints out in cyberspace about them.  If you are worried about the amount of money, check your credit card’s policies.  Remember you can cancel the payment within a certain number of days. 

I personally have been regularly ordering things online since 1992, and have never had a problem.  Trust your instincts, and do what is comfortable for you.  If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask them.

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert